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how do i get the support of that person
that i want to cheer me on and celebrate
me
is to stop doing some things because so
many people in our community are
potentially doing that i feel
unsupported in my youtube channel the
reason they’re not supporting you is
because you’re also trying to write a
book and start a blog and it’s actually
three channels you want to start and you
told them last week that you were gonna
start something else and the week before
you that you’re gonna start something
else you gotta just press record so
here’s seven questions to ask how do you
deal with unsupported family members in
your youtube journey
how do you deal with maybe those that
are not celebrating you question number
one
are they actually really unsupportive or
are you just interpreting interpreting
it that way what do you think about that
yeah i uh this question for me has been
one of the biggest questions that i am
constantly asking myself in this journey
and again i mean i see marriage as a
blessing right i i do believe that two
become one and in that there is friction
iron sharpens iron and when i think
about you know are they actually
unsupportive or am i interpreting that
way i 100 of the time interpret it that
way i go there every single time you
don’t believe in me you don’t trust me
and it really is actually just my
interpretation of how i’m feeling at the
moment where he just needs some facts he
has a question yes like so tell me a
little bit more about that oh you’re
opposing this if you’re questioning it
at all yeah or or hey um i thought you
said you were gonna be done at two no
it’s a long shoot day we’re not done
until five okay well we had plans like
and i’m like oh so you’re so great so
everything i’m doing actually doesn’t
matter and he’s like no we actually just
had plans you know and then it does it
sets us into this spiral where really
it’s just that he
where i’m talking about my spouse
because it’s really you know where where
i feel the most tension um is that i’m
interpreting that he’s not supportive
because i actually have not communicated
all of the things that are happening in
my brain you know and um and for me yeah
it’s always going to the interpretation
and yeah there are some times when he is
unsupportive but that is also a good
thing at sometimes too i will go off the
rails if i had freedom to just do and be
and say and you know all the things and
he’s like hey remember that life plan we
had like let’s let’s say on that course
a little bit so i interpret it that way
and over my journey as an entrepreneur
i’ve had to realize that not everyone
sees the world the same way i do and it
may take people a little bit longer i’m
also a dreamer my husband’s very
analytical you and i we are both
dreamers our spouses are both more in
that analytical more realist uh phase
and so yeah i automatically go to that
what about you
yeah i mean i just think that
uh some similarly i think we have to
recognize that we’re under pressure and
sometimes building a youtube channel
stressful you got a lot on your mind
and it might be pushing you to where
you’re almost on the verge of breaking
you know where you’re just trying to
hold it together emotionally because you
want to focus you want to show up and
then
whether it’s a spouse a partner
uh a roommate you know you live with
your sister or somebody else and again
they just say like like hey uh if you’re
gonna be shooting videos in the kitchen
will i be able to use it at six for my
dinner party tonight and you’re like why
are you now opposing my youtube dreams
you know but i think it’s recognizing
that again you may
just be interpreting it that way they do
support you but it’s okay for them to
question you okay question number two
have you put yourself in their shoes
that’s so good right have you put
yourself in their shoes in terms of uh
how they might be feeling again
it seems it’s kind of crazy you’re like
so i want to be a youtuber you know what
even what is that yeah um what does that
even mean and
we’re talking about pioneering and
pressing into essentially a new category
an undefined category
have you put yourself in their shoes
that maybe you’ve been
reading youtube secrets you watched all
of vray you’ve been listening to the
think media podcast for two years you’ve
been studying all other youtube
entrepreneurship and other you immerse
yourself in it eight hours a day they
have done
none of that right so they have like
kind of no context and your
all of this brain transformation you’ve
gone through it’s sounding fresh and new
to them so get into their shoes in terms
of communicating yeah i even think about
this with my parents my parents have
always quote unquote supported my
decisions but when i was like hey by the
way i’m gonna drop out of college i’m
not going to become and my dad served in
the military for 26 years very
traditional in his viewpoints and and
wanting security for his children so i’m
like and yeah by the way i’m gonna like
start this online business thing he it
wasn’t that he didn’t he just didn’t
even know what it was
he still really doesn’t even know what
we do he’s like you make youtube videos
and then they pay you how does this
happen and so over time i have to
realize that
especially when you when you think about
maybe your parents or an older sibling
or something like that this is fresh and
new still the the online economy the
youtube the creator economy is still so
fresh and new so you’re right we’ve
immersed ourselves you’ve probably been
thinking about your youtube channel
you’ve probably been reading the books
you’ve probably been doing these things
for a while you’ve probably been
watching youtube for longer than the
people maybe in your life have because
you’re interested in it so yeah putting
yourself in their shoes is such a big
piece to say oh maybe i should slow down
and actually say like what am i trying
to do what is this thing maybe give some
examples of some people who are
successful so that they can go and start
doing their research on it as well and
that brings us to question number three
now are you communicating your vision
clearly
have you educated them so if you’re in
their shoes and you go okay wait a
minute they probably i need to really
slow down
and explain this
and this also is a very powerful
exercise because again the reason why
they may be unsupportive is because
there’s just a total lack of clarity and
sometimes
you might have a lack of clarity if
you’re not sure of your business model
like how are you going to make money i
don’t even know i’m just going to well
then you might want to get a little
clearer than that like if if you’re
unclear i guarantee your family and
friends and people around you like it’s
going to seem even more ambiguous to
them so this is actually kind of a good
exercise to say number one have you
taken the time to educate whoever this
unsupportive person is into the details
and that could be that could challenge
you to maybe really galvanize your ideas
okay here’s my plan here’s how i’m going
to execute it i’m going have you ever
sat down and said listen uh can would it
be okay with you if i spend five hours a
week or if i spend 10 hours a week i’m
going to be diligent with this time
here’s my vision i want to chip away at
building a youtube channel i understand
we have other things going on um and
this is a good opportunity to how can
you educate um
tell stories
here like so
what exactly are you doing how do you
make money well here’s an example of
someone i’m following here’s what think
media is doing here’s what this specific
person in my niche is doing here’s the
way they’re they’re making money i’ve
actually studied them out a little bit
it took them a couple years that’s my
vision so my vision is i’m that’s what i
want to do as well and i think that i
really have it in me and
what do you think about that could you
join me on this it’s going to be really
hard for someone to support your vision
if you haven’t clarified and
communicated your vision yeah and maybe
this has happened with you i know for me
specifically the things that i care
about in my vision are not actually the
things that isaiah cares about in the
vision you know so for me i’m like i’m
gonna help people i’m gonna you know do
all these things um i’m gonna be able to
uh
fill in the blank and he’s like okay but
like who’s watching the kids on tuesday
you know like so so being understanding
i mean we could go back to so much that
you even helped people on the podcast
with of just understanding how to
communicate
what is the thing that really matters
them have you noticed this in your life
with sonia just the idea of like 100
when you’re saying this is what i want
thinking i’m going to change the world
she’s like well the garage has been so
dirty for so long and that’s my highest
value like would you actually help me
clean the garage you’re like but i’m
changing nations yes you know yeah and
so yeah you’re right like understanding
the other person because
that’s the dream of also an effective
youtube business yeah like
your your motive mission-driven impact
it’s a legitimate motive yeah what about
our bills right like what about like
actually our family how are we gonna
feed our kids you go okay inside of this
vision we’re not just gonna be able to
make a significant difference in the
lives of people we can also make a
significant living and so honey on the
other side of this you know mom dad on
the other side of this
this is the fastest growing small
business type hey here’s a report from
signal fire like hey here’s a study of
1400 content entrepreneurs like this is
a real thing and so this will be able to
achieve the values you have this can
fulfill your love languages as well as
well as mine definitely now the next one
is um do you have reputation for follow
through now
stepping
this was me and and and actually i’ll
defend myself a little uh
entrepreneurship is failing over and
over it is the idea of can you pick
yourself back up what does that look
like and it’s framing it for the other
person because it wasn’t that i was
untrustworthy it was that i was
interested in a lot of things sure at
the same time that all costs money right
so so
in that you know was i following through
on being a wedding planner i mean sure i
had done a couple weddings and i was
making a little bit of side income but i
was investing a little bit back into it
was i good at or was i following through
on helping other small businesses do
social media yes and i was also
interested in fitness like so i was all
over the place and so it felt like i
wasn’t following through now we look
back my husband and i talk about it and
he’s like oh i see that you were just
trying to figure out your thing but i
was not communicating that i was just
bouncing from one thing to the next
thing to the next thing and so my track
record of following through was very low
right and even up until the point i mean
i remember vividly calling him after you
and i had sat down at coffee and i was
like
we i i you know but he already knew we
were gonna meet for coffee right we have
boundaries in our marriage and and uh
and i said this is gonna be amazing
everything’s like this is gonna be so
awesome we’re gonna create this course
we’re gonna like change the freaking
world and he was like okay
sure you know and and not that he
doubted me but rather than just going
full-fledged into supporting me he just
kind of had a little guard up because oh
this is heather with another heather
thing sure i am a verbal processor and
even john on our team right now you know
uh you’re gonna be like heather why are
you talking about this rv so much i’m
obsessed okay um i was gonna sell it i
was gonna keep it and john goes do you
just pivot in real time and i go yes
that’s my personality i am pivoting in
real time
that can show
uh signs of non-follow-through and not
being trustworthy so it’s actually just
communicating now i say i am verbally
processing this i’ve not made a decision
i’m just verbally processing so what
about you well yeah so we’re turning the
mirror back on ourselves again we are
demanding or asking or hoping why are
they not supporting me what’s your
reputation
and um you know that whole i would say
hearing your story you were following
through and at least there was those
micro wins or big wins but they were
kind of scattered and that sort of
speaks to maybe the power of focus and
not even that you had evidence of hustle
i will one of the things i learned
growing up is i got to actually watch my
stepdad and my mom and i got to watch my
mom go from network marketing company to
network marketing company to network
marketing company and uh there was these
magnets these were all cool too these
like magnets that would like release
tension and like massage things called
nikan and uh these whatever and i
remember again it cost like a couple
grand to get started with one company
and you kind of do it for a while and
then the question is is there any sales
and even if there’s not sales are you
like smashing the phones are you like
hitting the pavement are you driving
door to door like are you hitting all
your friends up and that sometimes it
was like you get into the dream of
things but you don’t necessarily back it
up with the hustle so i watched that and
then sure enough it was like okay
this didn’t work out oh there’s another
one though i want to join and i don’t so
now i’m just i’m looking at both sides
i’m like okay if i put myself in my
step-dad’s shoes he not even again not
even necessarily just actual success and
revenue
even just what are your actions yeah
what what what is your are you actually
hustling are you in there working i see
this happen in a lot of people we coach
a lot of peers other men that i mentor
again they say they got big dreams for
business but then they’re playing video
games all the time and they don’t have a
gaming channel that’s right so it’s like
so then if you think your spouse is
supposed to say like you’re not hustling
though like you’re still literally life
or death might be on this you got your
day job and you’re trying to get your
side hustle to monetize
what business do you have not really
hustling it’s not that you can’t do play
some video games or something for a
little time to unwind but a lot of times
people do that out of fear they get the
idea but then they procrastinate away
the work they need to do i will say not
trying to
just to soberly judge my past one thing
sonia always knew about me was i just
freaking hustle my face off like i went
just all in even if it was
not necessarily seeming to be effective
so she never really doubted my work
ethic um there was times though that i
was definitely probably spending my time
like you in the wrong place spinning my
wheels
and again if i chipped away at one thing
that was less meaningful and then like
she got home and she’s like well you
said you’re gonna get all this done and
i made one thumbnail for eight hours
because i got two i wasn’t managing my
time well
all of those details all of those
details are you know super important and
uh and just do you have a reputation for
follow through
number five are you skilled at what
you’re doing oh man and this is this is
something people need to so believe i
think all these questions you should be
evaluating on a regular basis but this
one specifically are you actually
skilled in what you’re doing their
unsupportiveness
feeling
might be them actually not saying you’re
actually not really good at that you
know and like hey sonia i have decided i
want to be in the nba yeah like i i like
i’m changing i’m going into the nba and
she’s like i don’t support that why
don’t she wants support you know support
me
that’s an extreme example but that’s the
ultimate example like self-awareness
there’s a thin line between
self-awareness there’s a thin line
between ambition
and and and leaning stretching into
gifting and delusion
truth and sometimes it’s hard
do we have what it takes what do you
think about that yeah and i think this
is uh you know when we’re coaching
uh and and helping people in this
it’s not that you can’t start a youtube
channel when you’re excited about
something new
but my best advice is just pause
before if you’re just jumping into say
like kyle from our team just got a new
jeep it’s not like he doesn’t know about
jeeps but like maybe it’s like his first
experience with it right
maybe don’t start a jeep channel right
away like see if this is something
you’re really into see if this is
something you really want to be in
community with see if this is you know
because the self-awareness of saying are
you actually good at this like are you
good at teaching are you good are you
really good at mechanics are you really
good at um finance whatever it is that
you’re jumping into i see this happen a
lot too when people start to change
maybe their diet or their um or in their
finances and they’re like oh i want to
start helping other people and it’s like
let’s work the journey a little bit make
sure we’ve got some receipts
to show that you can help and that was a
big thing of what you even did in your
journey you’re like i’m not going to
just start helping people in vra i’m
gonna actually like coach people
privately make sure this program works
and then go deeper into it and i think
more people need to actually know that
patience is a part of this process and
that someone’s unsupportiveness isn’t
actually them attacking you it’s maybe
just them subtly saying maybe put a
little bit more work in before we start
going into it i think that’s strong and
of course this applies directly to i
think one of the things that speaks
maybe your skill is low but can your
hustle be high it’s good here’s where i
fail a lot
is i’m really into
i’ve never really been able to commit to
a workout plan i’ve been able to commit
to to running
um but one of the things that i do i
don’t really buy infomercial stuff but
i’m on amazon all the time i buy
exercise bands and i’m like oh this
looks cool i buy these little exercise
tools so there’s like constant packages
coming to my door little recovery things
like massage guns and things like that
well i can imagine in sonia’s mind being
like why do you need that massage gun
you never actually push your muscles
muscles to the limit you know what i
mean like it’s a logical like play it
out like why do you need these recovery
tools since you haven’t actually even
opened up the bands that you bought yet
like are you even really hustling and
following through and sometimes we what
we do is we talk we make these
declarations
without much credibility or strong
reputation
i think we should talk less hustle
almost in secret and then make the
declaration that’s a different way to
approach it we make a declaration i am
going to get brad pitt fight club ripped
so i’m paying for an expensive gym
membership how about
actually commit to 30 hours a day of
just push-ups and sit-ups for free 30
hours a day
30 minutes a day and for for you know
six days a week and you do that for a
whole month and that person goes wow
you’ve really been hustling okay yeah
that gym membership makes sense we like
jump the gun kind of and then we think
people are unsupportive so you flip that
back to to youtube channel or whatever
like hey honey i want to buy the most
expensive camera well you haven’t even
shot a video yet with your phone
so so skill needs to be developed but
rather than making these bold you know
declarations sometimes talk literally is
cheap and actions speak louder than
words and so if you can put some actions
in
that that you’re not declaring anything
but people notice then your family
members see you then that person sees
you they’re like wow you’ve been really
consistent that’s good building up your
skills okay i can get behind that and
now you want to make an investment well
let’s stretch into let’s say multiple
thousands of dollars of investment you
have a track record of even a couple
months of really doing the thing that
could go a long way so good all right
number six are you being faithful with
the other commitments in your life
are you being faithful with the other
commitments in your
life yeah this is a good one because now
we’re saying okay so i want to start a
youtube channel
i want to build my online business um
and but man i feel like they’re not
supporting us sometimes we we get so
self-righteous about that cause
that we it’s to the neglect of just our
day-to-day responsibilities so ask
yourself like who’s depending on you
like who what what are the goals and
roles in your relationship and have you
been making even deposits and
withdrawals so again if i hustle all day
on my youtube channel and i know though
that my spouse or my roommate’s
expectation is oh the house is cleaned
up or did you take the trash out or did
you take the mail pay for to the bills
or did you take care of the kids if you
don’t if you neglect those things then
actually they see your youtube business
your side hustle as an enemy
to the relationship so why would they
support that furthermore
if you’re doing those things then they’d
be much more likely to give you grace or
leniency and so it goes back to that
parents thing i feel like my parents
aren’t supporting me where you’re like
well i got my homework done i’ve done
the group i’ve done good grades i’m
getting to sleep so now there’s more
freedom and trust and when i think of
deposits and withdrawals this is huge
this is true in teams marriages any kind
of relationships some things you do in a
relationship are a deposit like a
deposit at the bank so when you
know what their love language is or you
know what they’ve asked you to do your
roommate hey can you do put the dishes
actually in the dishwasher and not the
sink that’s actually a deposit they have
a request you did it awesome then you
think about
a withdrawal though is maybe like hey
i really want a batch shoot this
saturday could you cover for me could
you do this thing well ultimately then
that might be a withdrawal but your
question is what’s your balance and too
many people are overdrawn their account
is overdrawn in terms of i feel
unsupported because all you’re doing is
it’s constantly a burden the youtube
channel is constantly affecting the
relationship uh negatively and so are
you being faithful with the commitments
in your life yeah i i take this back to
even when i think about um being an
early entrepreneur and a young mother i
was pulling myself at two different ends
i was you know young kiddos and i was
also trying to run a business and so i
think about what is even the season of
life that you’re in what are you
committed to in this season of life and
so i actually started to turn instead of
building i actually went internal and i
was like what can i learn what can i be
doing right rather than it being
something that was external that was
gonna cost us more money or or had me
away from the home more or those types
of things i just figured this is the
season i’m in this is only for a short
season we were in the season of my
husband building his career me with the
young babies at home trying to figure
out entrepreneurship and i thought man
am i already am i not actually doing the
things i need to be doing to my already
here commitments right and also thinking
i was also signed up for all of these
other things
and i had to really soberly evaluate
what was i actually going to give my
time to and for me and my husband we
decided that family comes first no
matter what like if the video doesn’t
get shot it’s okay family comes first if
if my kid needs me family comes first
those are just commitments we’ve made
but i have to say no to a lot of other
things because we will over commit
ourselves like crazy especially if
you’re like me a recovering people
people pleaser someone says hey we need
someone for this my hand is the first to
go up in the air and i had to learn to
like hold that hand down for a little
bit so i don’t over commit so that my
goals and dreams could actually come to
fruition because i actually could then
start working on it and my husband could
see that the time and effort i was
putting into the one thing was actually
the thing to support rather than saying
hey can you support me on these five
different things
and that helped us in our marriage and
even with my family to see what i was
intentionally putting my time and effort
into um and not and not feel like they
were against me but they were for me
because they knew what to cheer me on
for i wasn’t in five things i was in one
thing and that was what they could
really lean in for me with i do think
that sometimes we undervalue that
outside perspective and you’re exactly
right one of the ways to maybe get the
support how do i get the support of that
person that i want to cheer me on and
celebrate me
is to stop doing some things because so
many people in our community are
potentially doing that i feel
unsupported in my youtube channel the
reason they’re not supporting you is
because you’re also trying to write a
book and start a blog and it’s actually
three channels you want to start and you
told them last week that you were going
to start something else and the week
before you were going to start something
else they would love to get behind you
but they are soberly evaluating the
situation and being like well here’s
another thing there’s no way you’re
going to succeed and it’s true you’re
listening to this right now and you’re
like
actually it’s true i’ve taken on too
much so i love that get focused um and
they might be able to get behind the one
big idea and the one thing you’re
building which brings us to number seven
in terms of
man what do i do with unsupportive
people towards my dream my business
dream is who is supporting your dream i
think we have to acknowledge that even
if you are skilled at what you’re doing
or you’re at least putting in the hustle
to build the skill that you have a
reputation for follow-through that you
actually have articulated your vision
that you are really good with your
priorities this is pretty amazing too
but if you’re doing all that you’re
you’re good with your priorities you’re
super focused you are understanding
you’ve put yourself in their shoes they
still might be unsupportive
like they still just
might not be super pumped they might
kind of have a negative energy it they
might kind of be a debbie downer they
might kind of rain on your parade there
could be a lot of emotional things going
in there they could be just jealous or
it could be an inner issue or there’s
all kind of stuff
then the question is well who is
supporting your dream
it’s still possible to build a dream in
that environment you can’t you can’t
change
sometimes you can’t change circumstances
a lot of times and you can’t always
change people most of the time but you
can always change your perspective and
you can always then
shift your actions who is supporting
your dream
and are you intentionally building a
support
circle
um and have you been looking ultimately
for for support from the wrong person
yes because of course you want to be
like if you say that the only way i’m
going to feel fulfilled or even be able
to succeed on youtube is if i get
support from this one person then you’ve
given away your personal power but if
you say listen i understand it and this
was a huge
kind of a realization i had to come to
was i have i felt probably mostly
indifference from those around me or
rather just misunderstanding i just like
it wasn’t that they were unsupportive
it’s that they didn’t just get it like
your parents are like i just don’t even
know what you do
and me thinking i wish you did i wish
you understood me i wish i could talk to
you about this what i learned was like
no i just need to have a circle and an
outlet where i can connect with people
on that level and i think that’s what
we’ve built here at think media like you
and i we could geek out on marketing and
funnels and socials and youtube and
algorithms at dinner and when we’re out
on a double date with our spouses like
they’re not wanting to talk about
youtube and algorithms and so so that’s
great like that’s actually really a
healthy clear thing to understand so who
can you get around you that’s what we’ve
done with the video ranking academy
community people love the facebook group
because that might be their one place to
really vibe with people that can talk
youtube who do understand their dream
who do support their dream and so no
matter who’s in your your cousins don’t
understand you your parents don’t
understand you they’re not really
feeling supportive we’ll build a circle
somewhere else healthily
just get people in your life that can
feel that dream encourage you look for a
mentor a friend someone who can speak
life into you um and sometimes that’s
all that you need and that can help you
get to your goals yeah and i think for
me initially i really wanted acceptance
um i really wanted to be seen by the
people that were in my life for the
achievements that i was doing i was
putting my worth into
what i was building and i didn’t really
have much to show for it when i started
to shift my focus
from actually wanting their acceptance
to saying actually what community am i
in that i already feel accepted in um i
did this initially because i i’m i’m an
introvert it’s not like i went out in
facebook groups and was like hi guys
where are you at i’m very much an
introvert i actually started to get that
from um private groups of courses that i
was a part of like video ranking academy
but also by just becoming more confident
in just what i was already doing what i
knew i was called to where i knew i was
going where i didn’t then need the
accolades from other people i didn’t
need their appreciation and acceptance
and all those things because i knew what
i was called to do and so i started
digging deeper into books about just
understanding my own self-confidence
understanding that i was needing the
acceptance of others because i had such
low self-esteem in who i personally was
that once i started to build that muscle
and for me once i found christ and once
i really knew what i was here to do
that’s when it shifted for me where i
thought my husband supports me for who i
am and what i’m doing i don’t actually
need him to every day say like add a
girl you know or oh my goodness the book
you’re writing is amazing he probably
will read it or maybe he won’t and i
won’t that’ll be okay because i don’t
need
that verbal um acceptance from people
anymore but i think it’s important that
you say who is in my circle the think
media team you’re right i could build a
funnel and you’re like great job heather
and i’m like he gets me he knows what
i’m like great job i like that fun i
like what you did but i don’t i don’t
i’m not craving it anymore and i think
building that self-confidence muscle
getting in a group of people who uh it
rubs off when you’re around other
confident people you’re like oh that’s
what it looks like oh okay so when
you’re in communities like video ranking
academy you’ll start to see that you’ll
start to see that making one video
becomes easy you’ll start to see that as
you are doing this more and more that
the muscle is being built of just you
actually supporting yourself on the
thing that you’re doing super powerful
so use those seven questions what this i
think the most powerful thing we could
change today
is maybe what we can do how we can shift
how we can communicate our vision better
how we can maybe work on our reputation
how we can stop worrying about oh man i
just wish they would support me and
maybe think maybe there’s some stuff i
need to do it also could be on them but
these seven questions are really a
framework that we encourage you i think
this can change your relationships build
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